Making time to connect

Picking up on yesterday's post....Ever wonder how you can live with another person and not talk with him/her? Here’s a typical evening routine in the Hanson house.

She puts a kid to bed; I clean-up the kitchen.
She picks up toys, I check my email.
She reads her email, I pack my lunch.
She makes some tea, I do something for work.
Don't forget the TV.

Notice we’re near each other, but never close. We hear the other, but no one’s talking much. I call this a rut. We’ve been in one and I know we’re not alone. It’s easy, low energy, and often ‘comfortable.’ It’s consistency in a chaotic world.

Do you know what else? It’s bland as all get-out. We've been making a lot of effort that as we are doing different things, we'll steal just a moment for a hug or kiss or "I love you." We figure it's good for the kids to see this - even if Sophie finds it funny.

This is a hot topic for me so look for more posts about it.

January

Wow....where has Tim been? Sorry, ya'll - holidays keep one busy. Add to that the new time-wasting activity of Facebook, and blogs are so 2007.

Anyway, 2009 is off to a fun start.

Why? Well, I've been enjoying exploring some romance with Jennifer in our relationship. No juicy details coming here (this is a family blog). You don't realize how after a few years you forget some of the really simple little things that make you feel connected and appreciative of each other. And then have two kids on top of that and life becomes a blur.

One fun activity we're doing is the 40 Day Love Challenge through familylife.com. I get an email each day of something to do with my spouse - Jennifer.

So take a risk and 'wow' your mate. It's fun. I'll have another post soon with ideas for the creatively-challenged.

This is the relationship fire. Ooooh, aaah. Now grab your poker and move those logs around. Stir up that fire. Nice!